Guys — especially geeky guys — tend to say that their idea of the perfect partner is a girl who is smart, independent, and interesting. Unfortunately, what they actually mean most of the time is that they want a girl who is “smart” as in pays more attention to his (self-inflated) intellectual abilities than his (lack of) physical prowess, “independent” as in can be ignored whenever he’s doing something else, and “interesting” as in is a total groupie for the things he thinks he’s good at.
In my experience, when a geek guy wants me to be “into cars”, half the time what he really means is he wants me to drool over the “cool” exhaust pipes he shoehorned onto his mom’s Camry, not point out that they’re dumb because they actually rob the engine of power. He wants me to moon over him for being a “nice guy” and offering to change my oil, and feels “emasculated” when I break out the Haynes manual and change all the fluids myself.
And it’s the same damn thing with biking and computers and tabletop gaming and every other “geek thing”. Way, way too many geek guys want girls who fangirl over them for their interests, not girls who are actually good at the same things. Basically, they’re just as much of sexist pigs as the stereotypical jocks they think they’re so much better than — and a whole lot more obnoxious about it with the friendzone bullshit.
oh shit
We’re out there. You just need to look rather than relegating every guy with a fascination to “sexist pig”
I’m puzzled at this final comment.
It reads to me as though it’s angry at the original post for daring to say that geek culture is full of some sexist mess.
Maybe instead of being angry at what the OP said, you should see that a majority of geek culture is sexist and uninviting to the point of where anyone who is not a white, straight dude has to be extremely wary of everyone.
So instead of telling people to “look” through all the garbage to find maybe that one person who isn’t a “sexist pig” you should try to first examine and fix the culture that created that view.
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yeah man wtf
Oh my god this is the most hilarious thing I’ve read all day LOL Okay let’s face it; all men are the same, just as much...
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